Archive for September, 2013

6 things I’ve learned attempting to be an Adult

September 18, 2013

Now that I am over a year out of college, I feel I have a pretty good grasp on this “Adulthood” thing whether I choose to embrace and act like one is another story…I came up with a list of what I have learned in the first year or so post college.  (because I like to attempt and organize my thoughts, and a list is easier to read 🙂 )

1. You will be forced to budget. — It doesn’t matter how many times you learned how to balance your checkbook and budget in school, up until this point you didn’t care. Now that you’re actually forced to make a plan and stick to it, it’s a bit eye opening. I think I’m actually more broke now than I was in college.

2. It’s hard to meet new people in the “real world”. — This one might just pertain to me since I’m pretty shy, but after college it’s harder to meet people. You are no longer shoved in a classroom or forced to join a club and befriend those in the same boat. You actually have to go out on your own accord to attempt to meet people.

3. Be content with yourself and discover what you enjoy. — It was engraved in my brain that I would “find myself” during my college years. It may have just been me, but I feel like I’ve learned way more about myself after college.  I was always so caught up in what others around me liked and enjoyed that I never took the time to step back and see if I really enjoyed those types of things. After graduation, I was waaay outside my comfort zone and was forced to learn to be content with myself and discovered what I truly enjoy. While this was slightly depressing at first, it is something that I think has been very valuable to shaping who I am.

4. You have to work for what you want, it won’t just get handed to you. — If it does get handed to you, I hope you appreciate it and don’t take it for granted. I came across this article yesterday that I think there is a lot of truth to. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wait-but-why/generation-y-unhappy_b_3930620.html It explains the difference between my grandparents, parents and my generations in a way that actually made sense. My generation grew up with the mentality that when we grow up, we will have this awesome life, but then reality sets in and we are unhappy because it is far less than our expectations. I grew up learning that hard work pays off, and you must work hard to get where you want in life, but it is hard to not compare yourself to your “friends” on social media.

5. Your alcohol tolerance will take a plunge. — ….well for most people. You now have actual responsibilities, and you don’t have as much time to go to the bar around the corner called the “Library” where you told your mom you were “studying” every weekday. I first realized this when I went to a college party a few months after I graduated. All my friends were drinking at their normally (college normal) and there was no way I was going to attempt to catch up with them, plus I was ready for bed by 10pm. I continue to realize this every time I go out to a bar.

6. You will get tired of hearing “You’ll find something”. — If you don’t have a job lined up right after college like me, you will hear this comment A LOT and it will get SUPER annoying. Yes, I believed something would turn up, but it always felt like a sympathy comment and I didn’t want people to feel sorry for me. I think it’s a good learning experience that you have to work hard and put some effort into finding and applying for jobs rather than just being handed one. (in which case, I hope those people truly appreciate and acknowledge how lucky they are) Of course, you will get discouraged on your search and on that I have no advice you haven’t already heard. The feeling of getting a job all on your own is almost as exciting as getting a new puppy. (assuming you love puppies) While you’re actively job searching, take that time to be spontaneous. I spent almost a consecutive month in South Carolina and Florida, I never would have been able to do that if I had a big kid job. It was a nice break after school and before I actually had responsibilities.

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(Former) President Gordon Gee talking with me about my plans post graduation.

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